The Truth About Sex
Updated: Jun 11
I discern I'm living in a time and culture where lies go unchecked, unchallenged, and unpunished. I hate seeing strong delusions ruin people's lives. By the grace of God, I am committed to speaking the truth in love and praying for an increase in revelation, wisdom, and understanding.
I have the biblical knowledge and personal experience to speak with authority on this subject. My conviction in this area is firm and indestructible. I do not sympathize, empathize, or compromise with sexual sin. My comments may seem extreme (even for some Christians). I offer no apologies for this. Present generations need to get real and get right with God.
May the love of Christ and the righteous conviction of the Holy Spirit find everyone out who's caught up in sexual sin. It's time to evict the skeletons from every closet, sweep the filth from under every rug, and clear the clutter beneath every bed. Jesus is returning soon.
What is God okay with?
Exodus 20:14 says, "You shall not commit adultery."
In this one Commandment we have God's prescription for maintaining sexual purity. It's quite simple: ALL sex outside the marriage covenant between a man and a woman is sin (because gross perversion is springing up everywhere, I'll emphasize a biological man and a biological woman doing life according to the gender God assigned them at conception). To reiterate, of all the relationships between males and females - monogamous, heterosexual marriage is the only circumstance whereby God declares sex lawful and pure. Period. No sliding scale. No accommodations. No negotiations.
Yet, even in this context, we must exercise discernment since some things inevitably lead to sexual impurity. Consider the likes of: lust, immorality, fantasies, pornography, masturbation, homosexuality, molestation, pedophilia, incest, rape, oral sex, sodomy, "heavy petting", "making out", "dirty talk", seduction, flirting, sensuality, and cohabitation. Some things are obviously permissible in marriage, a few are not so obvious, and others are never permissible regardless of marital status. If there's any concern, confusion, or disagreement on whether these are acceptable in God's sight, I recommend reading the whole Bible and consulting wise, prophetic counsel.
If a man and woman are not married or related, their connection should resemble the relationship of brother/sister. In cases of dating, couples should have honest discussions about sex and agree to hold one another accountable. It's crucial that we learn to control our own body, resisting impulses and urges, especially in the presence of someone we find physically attractive. If you care about your soul, you will strive to remain sexually pure in your thoughts, emotions, and actions. If you're too weak or immature in this area, stop dating.
A lesson from the king
Certain incidents are recorded in Scripture for our benefit. Studying others' mistakes can help us avoid going down the same path. Read 2 Samuel 11-12:25 and consider the "snowball effect" of sexual sin.
David stays home when he should be on the battlefield (a step outside the counsel/will of God). When he saw Bathsheba, he lingered (lust) and fantasized about her (coveting). He convinced her to have a one-night-stand (adultery). Soon afterward, she starts gaining weight (unwanted pregnancy). To hide their infidelity, he arranges her husband's death (murder). David felt no conviction despite having MANY chances to turn back. He was so blinded by pride, position, and influence that he declared any man who committed these same crimes ought to be bankrupted and executed (2 Sam. 12:5-6)!
Notice how in 2 Sam. 12:8-10 God takes David's sins personally. Although he repented and was forgiven, the consequences of sexual sin, and shedding innocent blood, unleashed a curse on David's family - his newborn dies; his daughter is brutally raped by her brother (incest); one son has sex with David's wives in public (perversion); his kingdom is overthrown twice; and three of his sons are killed. One redemptive part of the story is that David and Bathsheba did have another son who became a great king in Israel (sadly, Solomon, too, eventually fell into immorality and idolatry).
Wow...and to think all this originated from one man just simply looking, with longing, at another man's wife.
Sexual sin among the brethren
Christians are wholly without excuse (1 Cor. 6:12-7:40). When we're born again, we're given all we need - grace, power, wisdom - to live a godly life (2 Pet. 1:3; Gal. 5:22-23; Phil. 2:13, 15). When we experience temptation, God ALWAYS shows us the way out (1 Cor. 10:13). Sexual impurity is particularly gross since it not only goes against the Lord but also against our own body (1 Cor. 6:18-20). As for those who profess to be saved while living in habitual, sexual sin, these people are liars (1 Jn. 2:3-6), and those in the Body of Christ have authority to confront them directly (1 Cor. 5:12-13).
Sex is not a game to be played; it's not a car to test drive; it's not a project to experiment with. Outside the marriage covenant, sex is dangerous and deadly. If you are tempted, RUN - don't walk! - away from the person/situation and don't look back. If you give in to temptation, REPENT and STOP sinning. If you're addicted, seek professional HELP and spiritual DELIVERANCE. Christ died to set us FREE from the slavery of sin. Don't come under shame and condemnation, but rather CONFRONT your flesh, EXPOSE perversion, CAST OUT demons, and UPHOLD the laws and principles of God's word.
FIGHT for sexual purity. The Lord is on your side!